An expense
No holidays. Rarely new clothes. New shoes can wait, old soles re-stitched. Why bother going to movies when there’s tv? Dinner always at home. Nothing wasted, everything saved. Squirreled. So that it may all be spent in one afternoon. The day the daughter gets married.
Ammani,
ReplyDeleteGood One, that's the reality in India even today. It is in our genes and we do the same here too.
AF
ammani, this happened in my own family, for my sister's wedding.
ReplyDeleteI love the way you write, short and yet thorough. keep it up :)
Well..this is true.
ReplyDeleteBut the same is almost true for anything else.
A Lifetime of sweat,blood and tears for scoring an olympic gold.
A lifetime of sweat blood and education to succeed in a critical interview...and so on.
Diff. is there's life beyond this..for these people. Not so in your story.
Even so. Well written.
Awesome, i liked this tale very much.
ReplyDeleteA lifetime of blood, sweat and tears for Olympic golds or critical interviews is purely for self-serving reasons... people who slave for a lifetime and go without, for their children - well, that's sacrifice. Unnecessary to do that, in my opinion, but it happens all the time, even now. Such a pertinent quick tale, as always, Ammani!
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Wonderful Ammani...a one that reflects the truth
ReplyDeleteThis was lovely ammani... so true! I jus saw it happen during my wedding..!:(
ReplyDeleteVery True Ammani. Our family has gone through this.Only thing is My father had three daugthers instead of one.Imagine spending around 10 to 12 lakhs for each marriage.Whatever said and done about changing times i think certain things will never change.Infact U will just be termed arrogant and egoistic if u speak out on these issues
ReplyDeleteevery quick tale amazes me........ like every cricketer wants to play like sachin i would love to write a post like this :)
ReplyDeleteHow painfully true ! I like to think that the times are changing though. Like Vidya put it, a fraction has showed common sense. Can only hope the rest would follow.
ReplyDeleteVidya.. kaalangal maaralam, aanal kalyanam nadathum vidam maaradu
ReplyDeleteA cousin of mine (the groom) wanted a simple wedding , NO janavasam,no car , no finger ring , no coat, no suit etc etc ..
He was asked to SHUT UP by his chittappas and was told NOT to act like a murpoakkuvaadi and behave like a mappillai !! huh!
Even if the bride and groom want to have a simple wedding, the junta around will always go ahead spending those 10, 11 lakhs saying "OOrru enna sollum / 4 paer enna solluva".. "enga aasaikku naanga pondroam" etc etc
Ammani, did you check your email?
OH my God!! brilliant.
ReplyDeleteGosh, this bugs me no end. I hope
ReplyDeletethis changes, soon. And I really think it's up to women to make that change.
Great tale. Great insight.
good un!
ReplyDeleteits easier said but to do it takes a lot of guts! i am not only talking about women but men as well, some of whom think that they can commodify themselves in the market and get high prices. As for the girl's family is concerned..sometimes it is the girl herself pestering her parents for a filmi wedding, and sometimes it is the parents who want to spend all their savings behind their daughter.
ReplyDeleteAmmani
ReplyDeleteBrilliant one again
Uma
very nice one...and when will ur recipe site be updated> waiting for some new ones...:)
ReplyDeletehope u dont mind blogrolling ur recipe site...
Amrita,
ReplyDeleteGood points. It's okay if you want your marriage to be grand and you want the special day of your life to be memorable. A distinction between celebrating the day and making it memorable for everyone and having to make sacrifices on a daily basis to get your daughter married (10 years from now) has to be made. Our previous generation, under the pretext of safeguarding traditon and culture, have failed to make this distinction. I hope we can use a little more common sense.
hi dinesh, i absolutely agree with u, and that's what precisely i implied that as a generation we should make a difference, and try to get out of thing about being ostentatious about everything we do. but for that to happen the essential mentality of youngsters needs to undergo a change..guys should realize that an MBA degree does not mean that he can sold at a higher stake than others and a girl should realize that even if she is the only daughter (if that is the case) , it does not mean that she can drain all her parents' money behind a lavish , filmy wedding!
ReplyDeleteand that is why we were married in the living room by the Cambridge Justice of Peace and till date I have never been able to fully enjoy myself at any desi wedding........
ReplyDeleteBut I end up looking like an idiot who doesn't know how to celebrate :-).
I **really** liked this one
viji
அன்புள்ள அம்மனிக்கு,
ReplyDeleteகதையை அரைகுறையாய் முடித்தால் எப்படி?
விட்ட பணத்தை ஆறே மாதத்தில் எடுத்துவிட்டார்கள்; யு.எஸ் பச்சை அட்டையில் பசையாய் வாழும் பையன் மூலம்!
என்றும் அன்புடன்,
ரங்கநாதன்
:-) Nice piece. A trip through so many things and ... reality bites.
ReplyDeleteHave been busy for a while to visit blogs. Excellent post this. Have seen it happen so many times, its just mindboggling.
ReplyDeleteshort,sweet,crisp.
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