Nice one. Not sure why do people call it chauvinism/MCP/hypocrisy? There is a huge difference between being impressed with some kinds of people and wanting to have them with you for life. I might find the docile, sweet homely girl really nice on screen in a movie like Roja, but find it impossible to live with a person to whom I have to explain everything. My friend's wife is a darling, but I would never think of her as candidate wife for the simple reason that she enjoyes nothing more than going to office and coming back home to cook food for the family... :-) So be it with the gutsy, beer guzzling, sailor-tongued women...
sorry, friends. i think this can be interpreted otherwise too. here we have a guy who wants to have a nice and happy married life. and knows that he would face issues with a wife who is very ambitious etc.
so i would see this story as a tale of consciousness (of self limitations) and freedom to choose!!
Also a good one for male-bashing comments. Agreed, some of us deserve it at times, but the comments on this one sounded a little hypocritical.
As an anonymous visitor here rightly said - admiration does not imply being in love.
The tale carries the same weight when you shift the gender "She admired their muscles, their care-free attitude, roughness, and toughness. But wouldn't want one of them for a husband."
Does that make the women hypocritical. Absolutely no! They admire the ruggedness in the guy, but when it comes to choosing their spouse they'd rather have a caring, soft, emotional and sensitive person. Some food for thought! :D
lol. Not sure if I'd call it chauvinism. One can appreciate a lot of things.. a lot of traits in a lot of people. But I'm not sure if it means that thats what is best for that person.. does it? A man could appreciate some girl putting up with a drunkard dad, etc. etc. Does it mean that he should marry her? He should probably do what works best for him. Same goes for the fairer sex too. She can be a fan of some guy on a job which takes him to exotic locations. Doesn't mean she'll marry him? 'cause finally she has to deal with the fact that he is not going to be home majority of the time.
A nice one Ammani. It is true in most of the things we do. We admire many things, but what we choose for ourselves is what we feel is suitable for us and what we can cope with :)
As always a good one. But why is it that, only one side of the coin is seen.
For example consider following cases
1.Most of the guys are worried and afraid, if such a girl will suit his home. To be precise, whether his mom and this girl will get along? What if ego clash arises between these two? And the girl wants him and her to leave the parents and live separately?
2.Think of a guy. He is very studious, works in a top company. Does sandhyavandhanam morning and evening. Goes to temples on every saturday. Spends weekend @ connemara or some library.
Will anyone girl marry him? They will respond 'Ayyo Seriyana pazha case'.
3.How many arranged marriages happen with the wishes of guy and girl? Isnt it the mother of the guy who first shortlists the girl, before the guy sees?
If this is considered as chauvinism, we men can just laugh at it. True, some men are like this. Sad fact. But isnt it the mother of such guys who cultivate this habit right from childhood?
It is so easy to jump and point fingers at men for every problem thats happening in relationships. It is not right to generalise.
To Ammani's credit I must say she is conveying a thought, a concept, an emotion. It is the reader's interpretation that is sometimes one-sided. Its all about perspectives.
really good one....
ReplyDeletei guess it a question of chauvinism!!!
i guess that kind of hyprcricy exists in lots of people in our society.
ReplyDeletehow very true...
ReplyDeletelotsa men out there who can identify themselves with this (MCP)
btw i luved the hubby and pwd thing
keep up the great job :)
Awesome! One of ur best so far!
ReplyDeleteThirukkural rangeku irukku, with jus 2 lines! Way to go ammani:)
Hi Ammani,
ReplyDeleteCommenting here for the first time, though visited a few times earlier. You have a fantastic blog.
And you are a real artist in short stories with definite meaning. You are so immaculate at it. Truly interesting.
Nice one.
ReplyDeleteNot sure why do people call it chauvinism/MCP/hypocrisy? There is a huge difference between being impressed with some kinds of people and wanting to have them with you for life. I might find the docile, sweet homely girl really nice on screen in a movie like Roja, but find it impossible to live with a person to whom I have to explain everything. My friend's wife is a darling, but I would never think of her as candidate wife for the simple reason that she enjoyes nothing more than going to office and coming back home to cook food for the family... :-) So be it with the gutsy, beer guzzling, sailor-tongued women...
sorry, friends. i think this can be interpreted otherwise too. here we have a guy who wants to have a nice and happy married life. and knows that he would face issues with a wife who is very ambitious etc.
ReplyDeleteso i would see this story as a tale of consciousness (of self limitations) and freedom to choose!!
now you can tear me apart :)
wonderful indeed...double standards of a man!
ReplyDeletehypocrisy defined well in just two lines!
Bang on!
ReplyDeleteNice one...Ammani.
ReplyDeleteAgree with erotreme
double punch Qt.Wonderful as always ammani
ReplyDeleteBullseye, as always!
ReplyDeleteAmmani,
ReplyDeleteGood One!
AF
Nothing amiss. In my perspective, mere admiration doesn't have to put oneself in love.
ReplyDeletedidn't 'get' the last couple of quick tales. but this one was goooood! welcome back :)
ReplyDeleteIf I were to comment the Ammani way,
ReplyDeleteI have lots to say about your quick tales, yet am speechless.
The last one was simply wonderful.
totally agree....men!!!
ReplyDeletelong-time visitor...first-time commenting - superb blog
awesome...
ReplyDeleteAs always, beautiful Ammani!
ReplyDeleteAlso a good one for male-bashing comments. Agreed, some of us deserve it at times, but the comments on this one sounded a little hypocritical.
As an anonymous visitor here rightly said - admiration does not imply being in love.
The tale carries the same weight when you shift the gender "She admired their muscles, their care-free attitude, roughness, and toughness. But wouldn't want one of them for a husband."
Does that make the women hypocritical. Absolutely no! They admire the ruggedness in the guy, but when it comes to choosing their spouse they'd rather have a caring, soft, emotional and sensitive person. Some food for thought! :D
Well expressed ! Here's subha's write up along the same lines.
ReplyDeletehttp://subhashini.blogspot.com/2005/03/why-are-men-uncomfortable-with.html
Self conscious ? I am not sure how that fits here ?
And, to some smaller degree, the fairer sex is guilty of hypocrisy of the same kind.
"Melliya aanmaganai pennukku pidikkaadhu. Muradaa, unai rasippaal"
Rasipeenga..enga kalyaanam panikkunga paaklaam :)
lol. Not sure if I'd call it chauvinism.
ReplyDeleteOne can appreciate a lot of things.. a lot of traits in a lot of people. But I'm not sure if it means that thats what is best for that person.. does it?
A man could appreciate some girl putting up with a drunkard dad, etc. etc. Does it mean that he should marry her? He should probably do what works best for him.
Same goes for the fairer sex too. She can be a fan of some guy on a job which takes him to exotic locations. Doesn't mean she'll marry him? 'cause finally she has to deal with the fact that he is not going to be home majority of the time.
Avan avargalin nadai, udai, baavanaiyaal thalai thirumbinaan
ReplyDeleteAanaal avargalaippol allaadhavalai thaan manaiviyaakka virumbinaan
(may sound weak :-))
Times are changing! with it the Notions too.. Expectations get redefined..sorry to c so many ppl accepting that bluntly..
ReplyDeleteTrue to a greater extent.. but its decreasing at a faster rate than ever before..
One more thing may be u shud think abt is that,
"The guy with the upper hand always tries to play fair"
Exceptions are there everywhere thou..
A nice one Ammani. It is true in most of the things we do. We admire many things, but what we choose for ourselves is what we feel is suitable for us and what we can cope with :)
ReplyDeleteno i don't hink so. his choice doesn't matter in his wife's affair. otherwise it would be an imposition, u may call it a good one(imposition).
ReplyDeleteAmmani,
ReplyDeleteAs always a good one. But why is it that, only one side of the coin is seen.
For example consider following cases
1.Most of the guys are worried and afraid, if such a girl will suit his home. To be precise, whether his mom and this girl will get along? What if ego clash arises between these two? And the girl wants him and her to leave the parents and live separately?
2.Think of a guy. He is very studious, works in a top company. Does sandhyavandhanam morning and evening. Goes to temples on every saturday.
Spends weekend @ connemara or some library.
Will anyone girl marry him? They will respond 'Ayyo Seriyana pazha case'.
3.How many arranged marriages happen with the wishes of guy and girl? Isnt it the mother of the guy who first shortlists the girl, before the guy sees?
If this is considered as chauvinism, we men can just laugh at it. True, some men are like this. Sad fact. But isnt it the mother of such guys who cultivate this habit right from childhood?
It is so easy to jump and point fingers at men for every problem thats happening in relationships. It is not right to generalise.
To Ammani's credit I must say she is conveying a thought, a concept, an emotion. It is the reader's interpretation that is sometimes one-sided. Its all about perspectives.
ReplyDeleteAdd me to this long list of fans :)
ReplyDeleteLoved this lil tale!
isn't that called "oorukku ubadesam"... very well done, as usual!
ReplyDeleteHe was admiring other men perhaps :)
ReplyDelete