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Overheard

“Walk with your head bowed”
“Sleep with your legs together”
“Don’t leave your hair loose. Tie it”
“You really should start wearing long skirts now. You’re a big girl”
“No, no, you cannot cut your hair. I don’t care what your friends do”
“It’s dark now. You can’t go out alone.”
“If the man touched you, just ignore it. You cannot be reacting to everything, you know”
“Shh…don’t tell your father about it. He’ll say you invited it upon yourself”
“What’s wrong with this boy? Why won’t you marry him?”
“What do you mean you don’t like him? If I had spoken like that to my dad…”
“Let the men eat first”
“Women are born to suffer”
“If you can’t bear this pain, how are you going to have babies?”
“So, when are you going to make us grandparents?”
“My God, you look so much like your mother!”

Comments

PVS said…
hahaha...have heard it all :)
mischief editor said…
appropriate title...

if it wud hv heard by the heart, the concern/anxiety wud hv known...

as we are 'siluthukura' generation, this can only be overheard and conveniently termed as 'conventional'....

go ahead and continue your good work...
ammani said…
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Uma said…
Ammani,
You are an amazing writer. Very emotional stuff.
dogmatix said…
true true Ammani.
and u forgot to add one more to the list "I am saying all this for ur good out of 'akkarai' (concern)".
how i wish one of these times i had said 'Oh but thats bcoz u dont know any better'!!
ammani said…
PVS, ME, Uma, Dogmatix,
Let me have your lists, please.
Thank you.
Anonymous said…
Listened to it all and esplly the last line of this post..so used to hearing it quite often==>>"My God, you look so much like your mother!”"..nice stuff...
AF said…
Perfect Ammani!!!... Keep writing!!
Guevara said…
Looks like dialogues from a Tamil Serial
Chakra Sampath said…
hav overheard them all.. :)
Ansh said…
Been there...heard that:)
JaganLee said…
Nice short story collection.
Yeah
Nice read. I think times are slowly changing.
Have heard it enough number of times to vouch for every one of them. If I wasnt in the firing line, it was one of my friends or cousins.
Somethings never change, and thanks for reminding us about them.
Anonymous said…
Don't argue with amma
ethithu pesathey
iratarathukku munanidi thirumbi vaaaa. even if i left home at six
Great ammani ...first time at your blog
wonderful
Jyotsna
None said…
ammani,

how about 'molaichu munu ela vidualai... as a prefix to most of the above!? :)

would you like to read a short story, not a quickie, but decently short? then, can i invite you to my blog? :)

cheers!
ramya
Shyam said…
Very, very evocative post! Sounds so familiar... I guess at one point or another, we've all heard some or all of those statements :)
Vidya said…
Too good!!

You have such a short blog here, and yet have conveyed so much!

Times are changing though, hopefully these phrases will be things of the past soon!

Vidya
Anonymous said…
Mannn...awesome!!!!

Another one - un vayasula ennaku 2 kozandainga ayachu.
childwoman said…
heard them, over and over and over and over again....

Ab ke jo kiye ho datta, aisa, phir na kijiyo, agle janam mein datta, bitiya na kijiyo....

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